Make Kids Second
Quite the crazy statement, don’t you think? Imagine, make kids second – most people would think I’m crazy to suggest that but I promise, there’s a good reason for that. The thing is that if you have a strong faith, you already put that first, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m saying that you need to put your spouse before the kids.
Make Mom or Dad first
I heard this from John Gray when he was talking about making his wife first. This meant to make kids second when he got home from work or a trip. He would make sure that he found his wife as soon as he walked in the door even if his girls were begging for his attention, to show him a drawing or give him a hug. He would say “Where’s mom, where’s mom?” and go find her to give her a kiss and a hug.
After a while, when he got home, his girls would not even bother and would just say “:Moms in the kitchen” because they knew she was first.
Why is this important?
What happens is that you are teaching your kids that their mother is important and that they need to treat her with respect because you do. Remember, kids will do what you do, not what you say. If you treat them first and their mother second, then they will treat their mother as not important and that can’t be good!
In any case, my wife loves that I do that and I’m sure the girls will grow up respecting their mother more because I make the kids second.
How about you? Have you heard of this before? Have you tried it? Let me know by posting comments below.